Thursday, November 5, 2009

2nd Chances....



I'm a big believer in 2nd chances. I've personally had the opportunity of a second chance at things I may not have done well the first time. I also believe that history repeats itself more then not. That said, during those few times where a wrong is made right, a failure turns to a success, and life is beautiful. More often then not, second chances that come our way have to do with relationships. The beauty of second chances in relationships is that you get to confirm the what if's, the what could have been if certain things never happened. Chances are your relationship with that person, and most importantly yourself has changed since the first encounter. You have had time to reflect on the relationship as a whole and how that relationship fits into your life. You may now know what the relationship needs to look and feel like in order to work for you. How that new take on something old works for the other person is what will matter most.

I found this on e-how: "The great majority of relationships end in breakup before marriage, and about 50 percent of marriages in the United States end in divorce. Despite these daunting figures, many people feel that second chances in relationships should be examined and can result in success. With another chance to right wrongs and to deliver on promises broken, maybe these numbers would greatly diminish. Unfortunately, in second-chance situations both sides often fail to execute in a manner that favors the progression of the relationship"


If after a break up, weeks or months later, you still feel like it could have worked, I recommend giving it a second chance. Write down the things that worked, the things that didn't and work on it. Work is the key word here. All good things are worth fighting for. Actually all good things will have to be worked hard (fought) for, at some point, somehow. 


I hope love finds us all, I truly believe it's the reason we are here. 
BD



1 comment:

  1. Second chances are a treat. Always find ways to make it GROW...no matter what.

    I read a book recently and these words (in that book) tie in to what you've written today:

    "A few minutes with that voice in his ear would cause his eyes to sparkle and set his heart to dancing."

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