We are in love with .....well, Love.
It is as though we are put here with one main focus, finding a partner, or multiple partners to love. Some people think it's the desire to procreate or what keeps us multiplying. Others believe that we have soul mates, few select people or even one select person on this earth that is specifically designed for us. I believe in Love. Not just as a chemical in our body chemistry that hides another purpose, but as a spiritual encounter.
How we are loved as children seems to shape the way we desire love as adults. For some of us this can be a serious problem. Hence why some people "Love" to be treated poorly. Some therapists believe we are looking for our opposite sex parent in our adult partners. A women just like mom or a man just like dad....crazy huh? I guess love comes back to how our parents raised us then.
Finding love is not always easy either. People pay a ton of money in search of love. Dating services, dates or going out to the clubs and bars in search. What's funny to me is you almost never find it when you are looking.
I found this online:
"We all have a template for the ideal partner buried somewhere in our subconscious. It is this love map. But how is this template formed? that decides which person in that crowded room catches our eye.
Many researchers have speculated that we tend to go for members of the opposite sex who remind us of our parents. Some have even found that we tend to be attracted to those who remind us of ourselves. In fact, cognitive psychologist David Perrett, at the University of St. Andrews in Scotland, did an experiment in which he morphed a digitized photo of the subject's own face into a face of the opposite sex. Then, he had the subject select from a series of photos which one he or she found most attractive. According to Dr. Perrett, his subjects always preferred the morphed version of their own face (and they didn't recognize it as their own)."
Falling in love is definitely a rush, a high so to speak. Nothing in the world feels better then falling in love. Wars are fought over it. Cities are built over it. People are killed daily because of it. Love is wht makes the world go around. As far as I'm concerned, the only reason we desire money is to attract members of the opposite sex. If you had no desire for love, what would you be like? What would your life look like? Would you work? Would you keep yourself in shape? What would you do?
If you're looking for love, my advice is to imagine your perfect partner and allow yourself to fantasize about each detail this person would have. see these things in your mind and allow yourself to feel what it would be like to have someone like that. Chances are you will not only attract someone like that into your life but at least now you'll know what it looks like when you do meet that right person.
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